Sunday, January 6, 2008

New Baby

So I am looking for any words of advice for the transition from one child to two. Especially anything to help out Ty. He has been such a good little boy lately and I am so worried he will become a monster. Anything you could offer would be greatly appreciated!

13 comments:

The Shumway Family said...

I would just recommend letting your husband sleep through each night without bothering him with things like diaper changes, asking if he'll take care of the breastfeeding, or even expecting him to interact with your oldest. This truly is the key to success.

Libby said...

I don't have alot of advice for this since I haven't been faced with this quite yet. I may need it later on this year though. :)I am so excited for you all. How are you feeling?

Marie Lefler said...

Don't listen to your husband is one thing! At least his last comment posted.

I have found with my son, which I am still working on, is to take the time when the baby is sleeping to give him one on one time. Don't clean or watch TV during this time, so he knows your full attention is on him. I think my son is getting better because of the one on one time I set aside for him.

I also am trying to not say NO as much and to praise him extra when he does things he should do.

One other thing, it is good to give him jobs. Like telling him to go get you a diaper for the baby, or a binki, etc. My son loves to hold the baby and do the things that I do, so I try to involve him in that as much as I can.

Hope this helps. Things are getting better around here, so hopefully your transition will be smoother than mine was. Take care and good luck!

Kendra Meyers said...

Still adjusting to two myself! Let me know if you come across a way to make it any easier! :) I will say though that going from 1 to 2 is much easier than going from 0 to 1.

Al, Ash & Family said...

I've found from talking to lots of people that every kid reacts differently. Just try to give him A LOT of attention. Olivia didn't ever hurt Chase, she acted out to get attention though...not so fun :) He'll probably love the new baby. (oh, one thing I thought was cool...Let Ty be the first to hold the baby (besides parents) and have it be a special time.

The Shumway Family said...

Actually this time you will be breastfeeding the baby. Good Luck!

Bethany said...

Marie left a lot of good tips! I am so excited for you to have another addition. Ty is so adorable, I can only imagine how the next will be!
Transitioning is definitely different for everyone. Jax had no problem for the most part. I do recommend getting a little "mommy n Me" time in. Overall, just keep things as normal and usual as possible. You are going to be great, you are such a good mommy.

megan said...

Transitioning to two wasn't the hard one for me. It was going to three that threw me through a loop. Jake was older than Ty at just over three years old. I wasn't overly protective of Mia and let him kiss her head and toes and hug her. Jake just loved babies and it seem to go well for him. Thinking more about it, I did include him a lot. While I nursed her, Jake and I read or I sat with him to watch a movie. It was a bit easier to take care of his needs first since he was much more demanding then Mia was. It was never perfect by any means. We had our moments but I think it has all worked out.

The Snows said...

Good Luck! Just kidding. For the first two months just know it will be a big adjustment for all of you. But it does get better.....Some things that worked for me though were, if you are nursing...., read a book to the older one. This helps them feel like you are still giving them the attention they need. Especially since all you do the first two months is feed the little one. Some other things you can do is find other sit down activities you know they will enjoy such as, play doe, flash cards, puzzles, etc. these are all things I found I could pull off while feeding the younger one. Oh ya and BE SURE TO ALWAYS ASK YOUR SPOUCE FOR HELP! he he he

Holly said...

He'll work things out. He might go through a bad patch, but it will pass. Just try not to word things in a way that would put blame on the baby (I can't do this with you because the baby . . . .)

Ashlee said...

Hey guys! I found your blog on the Olsen's website...sorry I was snooping. Anyways there are "new sibling" classes that you can take him to that make him feel super important and teach him all about being a "BIG Brother" and helping Mommy and Daddy. Also, Ethan, I don't know how you feel about this but my sister-in-law gave her son a Buddy Doll. It was a Boy doll and he got to practice taking care of a baby and being soft. When the actual baby came home, he was totally fine with it because while Mommy was playing with the baby Wyatt was playing with buddy. It seemed to help. How are you all doing anyway. Fun blog, our is http://adayinthelifeofthenelsons.blogspot.com/

Krystal said...

I've been thinking about it a lot...this was the hardest change for me. A good thing you have going for you is that Ty actually knows what a baby is and likes them. Something that worked for us was to have Seth go with Daron for 1-on-1 time, it really built their relationship. The hardest thing for me was not really having a break from kids, one would go to sleep and as soon as I would lie down the other would wake up, so make sure you take time for yourself, and as a couple. I'm sure Ty will adjust well, you guys are great parents, I can't wait to see your new baby!

Daron said...

You love babies. You love children. Most of the time that Ty has been hungry you have given him food. Just think back on the times before all of this started and I don't know call me crazy but those are the times that you'll remember don't you think?